The Importance of Compassion when Connecting with HSP's
Compassion is, in my opinion, one thing that we could ALL use a little bit more of in our lives. And in relationships with HSP's, well, it's a downright necessity.
As Highly Sensitive people, we thrive when we can meet, and be met, with a level of compassion that many people are not sure how to do just yet. Which, in and of itself, is actually a great thing.
Why? You might ask. Well, let's look at it this way, often times, when people do not know how to do something, but it is important to the survival of a connection, they will make the effort to learn it in order to maintain said connection, if indeed it is important enough to them.
So, we go from having a bunch of humans walking around in the world not knowing how to act compassionately, to actively learning how to best do this so they can grow together... Pretty cool, right?
The next piece about the importance of compassion is that it is inevitable that things are going to come up for both people in the relationship. A HSP is going to be challenged to find a mode of communication that supports the potentially more logical, to the point, approach of who they are in relationship with (partner, coworker, family, etc), which can bring up feelings of not being able to be themselves, fear of shutting down, not feeling heard, and so on.
Whereas, the non-HSP can feel challenged by the request/invitation to go deeper into their feelings and express more emotions. This can leave them uncomfortable, like the HSP is asking them to change who they are, and like they aren't ever enough for the other person.
By holding each other in compassion, rather than reverting to defensive modes and assuming attack, we can see where the other person is being challenged and can honor all of who they are. This makes it sooo much easier to move forward in growth, as individuals, and together.
Where in your life do you feel compassion could be a game changer?