Have you ever simply wanted to crawl under a blanket and stay there? Maybe make a nice fort out of your bedding, the floor is your mattress, and the couches surround you, creating a safe space where nobody can get to you. Perhaps a mini-fridge so you have everything you need, and only venture to the bathroom with a broom handle and your tin-foil hat to protect you?
I think I went to far with that last bit... What I am saying is, have you ever wished you could just disappear for a bit, not have to deal with anyone and be safe under that blanket where no one else's energy, thoughts, projections or "stuff" could get to you?
My spidey senses tell me I'm not alone on this one. And that's OK! We are sensitive creatures, some of us more than others and often times we empaths are the first to pick up on the energies in our surroundings and take 'em all home with us to make soup! For example, we walk down the street, there's a couple fighting, she is quite sad, he is angry. We feel triggered by this, and put one of those emotions in our little fanny pack, shall we say, anger. We go into the grocery store, and because we are such open beings, we are constantly being told people's life stories. An older woman comes to tell us how lonely she is after her cat passed away, and how she is afraid it is her fault for a variety of reasons. She feels guilty, and we pack that away for her so she doesn't have to carry the burden. She leaves feeling better after talking to us and we walk away with guilt.
This goes on for the rest of the day, likely without us even noticing we are doing it! Then, once we get home, we wonder why we are SO exhausted and emotionally drained. We empty our fanny pack of feelings and sit in this emotional soup of debris we picked up throughout the day, when only about 10% of it really belongs to us.
Boundaries, my dear Watson. Boundaries!!
We talk about boundaries a lot with our kids, physical boundaries for the most part and verbal/emotional boundaries coming in as a close second, but where are the ENERGETIC boundaries? If we were to sit down and talk to our children about how not to take on someone else's energy, how to protect ourselves... while still remaining open to the world... I imagine this world would be quite a bit more open to begin with. Rather, we shut ourselves down because it seems easier, but I can tell you from experience, this world is WAKING UP, and quickly. It will come for us, the awareness, and it comes for our highest good, so the less shut down our present and future generations consciously choose to live, the less healing we will have to experience to truly wake up.
Why is it hard to do it, and why I am the one here telling you this? Because we were never taught. No one being better than anyone else, as we move forward in this world, generation after generation comes with more answers to the previous generations questions. THIS is awakening!
So, suffice it to say that our parents likely were't taught this by their parents, or their grandparents, nor were they taught it by their great grandparents, simply because it wasn't time.
As I child, I was not taught what I see as a basic need in this world as a highly sensitive being. As I grew up, I also shut down. It wasn't until I went to a Holistic Health school that I really began to see the bigger picture, recognize my gifts as GIFTS rather than a curse, and started to open myself to this world, and the people around me.
THIS is what I am here for. That journey was what I needed to experience, struggle through and overcome so that I could stand confident in offering my gifts to others seeking the same. So that I could offer this to parents who didn't have the support they needed and desperately want to offer that support to their children, but just don't know how.
We have built walls throughout our culture by being shut down to the energies around us, and understandably so, but it is time for CHANGE! Rather than build walls to shut others out, I invite you to invest in a zipper. A zipper she says?! YES, a ZIPPER!
Take a stand, literally. Nice and tall, deep belly breath and slowly bend forward. This zipper begins at your feet; as you take it in your fingers, consciously decide what this zipper keeps out and protects your energy from as you zip it all the way up and over your head. At the back of your head, switch hands and, as you zip down the back of you, be aware of all that you are releasing from this safe bubble of clean and positive energy. The zipper ends right where it began, and you are ready for your day.
If we were to teach this to our children each day, how to keep out energies that don't belong to us, imagine how intact their sense of self would be at the end of the day.
Of course, there are things that come into play throughout the day, and boundaries that may be more permeable for one friend than another, but that's why this is simply the beginning!
Stay tuned next week for the difference between permeable and impermeable when it comes to energetic boundaries, AND, a wonderful way to clear away the yuck after a long and open day out there in this great wide world.
As always, thank you for investing this time in yourselves and for being open to the words on this page. These are all based on my work as a Coach for Parents of Highly Intuitive Children.
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