Highly Awesome. What does this mean to you? I can't answer that for you, but I can tell you what it means to me. So here we go...
There has been some controversy over why I call the parents and children I work with "Highly Awesome". Today I am going to address that. What I have heard from a few parents is that, "Every parent feels their child is awesome", and I absolutely respect that. EVERY child is awesome in their very own way... and here is why the kids I work with are different. (Note: DIFFERENT, not better, not worse, not the same, but different).
The children that I work with are called all sorts of things, most of which is not positive. They hear the word "Different" and it makes them cringe. They are called weird, strange, different, odd, ADD, ADHD, (and a host of other diagnoses), over sensitive, a problem child, someone who had behavior issues, and so on.
When the heck did it become a negative thing to give these kids a positive vision of themselves to realize that they are honored and appreciated, seen and accepted, understood and inspirational?
In my opinion, it has been too long that we have been seeing these children as their outward expressions of being misunderstood and under-supported in this society. It is time we embrace them, and my calling them Highly Awesome is an extension of that. This is how I see them. And I believe their parents deserve to hear someone calling their child Highly Awesome as well.
All too often, the parents are hearing all the troubles their child is having at school, in daycare, with friends, and they hear it from doctors (who they go to for support), teachers (who they trust their children with each day), and other parents (who are meant to be a supportive tribe of togetherness).
No, I am not saying that every doctor, parent and teacher is telling them there is something "wrong" with their child, but a number of people are focusing on these children's faults and downfalls rather than seeing their gifts THROUGH the behaviors displayed when misunderstood. This perpetuates misunderstanding.
So there you have it. I will continue calling these children and their parents Highly Awesome. This is what I am passionate about. They deserve it. They are here to claim it. And the longer we deny them of that by not wanting them to have a special title because it might offend others, the longer we hold them back from reaching their true potential in this world.
Maybe it's just me, but that's a waste of the gifts these children come with to change, and potentially save, the world.
Fearless Leader for the Highly Awesome
So, here I am, sitting in my temporary office in Arizona, knowing that if there were a mirror that showed what my energy looked like the picture would be something like this...
Imagine, an adorable little old cartoon lady who, before landing on the floor upside down turtle style, was walking along wonderfully. She had her shit together, or at least she thought she did. She was so focused on getting to where she was going, (likely her rocking chair so she could knit some more badass slippers), that she was avoiding looking down where she knew there were big Lego pieces scattered from the Grandkids last visit. (Translation - gosh dang obstacles!).
Not only did she trip, but she toppled right over and landed on her back, staring at the ceiling.
Now, for those of you who have ever fallen, you might relate when I say that there is a moment in time before you land on whatever part of you is going to break your fall where you think, "This is going to suck". Well, I didn't have that mentality. Rather, I thought to myself, "This needs to happen". And I can tell you that I landed right on my self-confidence. BOOM! Crack! SmAsH! (Yes, my life sounds like an old Batman episode).
Back to the story!!
"Fuuuuuuck!!! Son of a BEACH!" - Yells the still adorable, and slightly more badass cartoon old lady.
She then proceeds to lay on her back, taking a breath and gathering her dignity, one inhale at a time. Some time passes and the little old lady is still there, on the floor, where she had fallen. She doesn't call out for help. Rather, she lays there and looks up at the ceiling thinking, "It's so far away".
Some time passes and she has to pee, like any cartoon old lady inevitably would have to do. (Translation: She has a need, and to fulfill that need, she has to brave the Lego's and get up. PS I am 28 and probably pee more than any cartoon old lady I know). She starts to look around, brainstorming how she could get up, sees a few ways, and then decides they will be too hard. She feels defeated. If the little old lady were being honest with herself in this moment, she might recognize that she is afraid. Afraid that if she gets up, she may very well fall down again. She's not ready for that.
After a while, her bladder fills more, and the need to pee becomes stronger. Merin (this is what I am calling the little old lady now), decides to ask for help. So she calls out, "Help, help! I've fallen! Someone please help me!" Into the room run her friends, her business coaches, (Merin is a Highly Awesome Woman with a Highly Awesome Business, of course), her colleagues, and all of the amazing people in her life. There are A LOT!
They try to give her a hand, a pull, a push, encouraging words, life affirming realizations, but with each, "almost there", Merin pulls back and falls back to the ground. You see, she hasn't yet decided she is going to get up. She is still afraid of the possibility of falling again, even with all of these beautiful people there to support her. "Help!", she yells again, "I've fallen and I WON'T get up!"
People start to pull away. They stop pushing and pulling, and they just leave their hands outstretched recognizing she will reach out and pull herself up when she is ready. Merin feels deep gratitude for them, and continues to stare at the ceiling.
It's Thursday, and she gets a Facebook message on her smart phone... because that happens all the time when you are on the floor, fearful of the Lego brick doom. One of her AMAZING clients shares a breakthrough she has had. This client is freaking out about being seen, and possibly falling, but she is stepping out and doing it anyway. Merin thinks to herself, "That's inspiring, and she is overcoming a fear that I am afraid of as well".
In that moment, a colleague reaches out and asks, "What are you afraid of, Merin?" And she answers with, "I'm afraid of falling and not being able to get back up". And the Universe chimes in and says, "All you have to do is CHOOSE to get back up and you will be able to".
With that, Erin... whoops, MERIN (Me, Erin), decides to stand. She connects herself with all of the wonderful people around her, and uses her own force, her own energy, and the collective belief in her from her loves ones to energize the belief in herself. With one swift, WHOOSH, she's up and bonking her head on the ceiling. It's only a matter of time before she breaks that shit open and flies free in the sky.
What a great story, hey?! The glorious part about it is that the transformation happened as I wrote this. So, do you see how setting an intention to get yourself up when you have fallen is just as powerful leading up to the part when you actually stand again?
Loving you up,
Fearless Leader for the Highly Awesome
It happens to all of us. We start out with great intentions, a plan of action, perhaps even a list; and then, out of nowhere, dinosaurs breathing fire trample on our car and we are unable to get out of the driveway to do what we were headed to do!!
Ok well, basically what I am saying is that ideas are great, plans are freakin' awesome, lists are super helpful, but the fact is, life happens. There are things outside of our control that are going to come up at inconvenient times, and there is also a lot that we CAN do to be more present so that when those out-of-control times happen, we aren't as overwhelmed by everything we have yet to complete.
Presence opens the doors to sooo many magical experiences. And if we are too busy being distracted by cell phones, social media, television, overeating, and all of those other outside distractions that cause us to miss out on certain parts of our lives then we are wasting time.
Lately I have been talking a lot about what we can do to support our children, and in today's message I would like to offer you something that is just for you. (Sneaky monkey confession: This will also serve your parenting, your relationship with your partner, AND your relationship with your Highly Awesome Kids...gotcha!)
Take a moment and think of a time, recently, that was considerably overwhelming for you. Perhaps something was going on with the kids. Maybe you and your partner got in an argument. Things may not have been going great at work. And then, bam, all hell broke lose!
In that moment, what did you feel?
More often than not, we jump to the fight or flight response when we feel that way. For example, I recently got in to a heated discussion with someone I care about and all the alarms started going off in my body, honking and screaming, "Get out of here! Run for your life!!"
Before offering myself the gift of presence, I would have run for the hills. But today I want to give you a different option. And that is to stop for a moment, recognize where in your body you feel whatever emotion you are experiencing, and tell yourself, "I feel *this* and IT'S OK".
It's that simple. Are you laughing at me yet? It's ok. (hehe). But it really is!
One of the biggest distractions that I have noticed in myself and in my clients is that we try to tell ourselves we are not feeling a certain thing that we really are...funny humans... And the next one is that we try and tell ourselves, and sometimes others, that it is NOT OK what we are feeling.
And that could not be further from the truth! For heavens sake! The reason we are here on this planet is so that we can experience these feelings. EMBRACE THEM ALREADY!
That's probably enough tough love for the day, but the truth is, these feelings come up for a reason. They are here to tell us something; about ourselves, about our surroundings, about our experience, about our existence! And the more we deny them, and act as though they are wrong, or bad, or inappropriate, the more we deny ourselves as a whole. And in doing so, we teach our children to do the same.
Now, I don't know about you, but I am in the business of making sure that every child knows, and LOVES, themselves; fully and completely. So let's make a choice, shall we? Let's choose to be more present for ourselves. Because when we do that, we spend less time running from ourselves, and more time embracing. And when we are not running, we spend less time on social media, television, overeating, texting, and so on, and more time engaging with our families, spending time with the people we care about and taking proper care of ourselves.
You can do it. I absolutely believe in you. And I am right there beside you every step of the way.
Love, Light and Unicorns,
Fearless Leader for the Highly Awesome
I used to feel badly about people who thought I was weird. What a funny time in my life. Until recently, it really... and I mean, REALLY... bothered me when someone thought that I was anything other than what I am. For example, if someone thought that I meant a certain thing when I really meant something else it would upset me like no other if I couldn't convince them that I meant what I ACTUALLY meant.
And then I thought to myself... why do I worry about people thinking I am weird? Or different. Or strange. Or "alternative". They are RIGHT!
I am different. If you have read my previous post on A Rebels Perspective then you would know how freakin' hard I have worked, my entire life, to not be like anyone else. And then I realized I didn't even have to try! There is such a unique "Me-ness" to me that it is not difficult to be unlike anyone else. The true struggle was ACCEPTING myself as this person, and all of the judgment and perceptions of me that other people may carry along because of that self-acceptance. This is true for YOU too. And you. And you over there. And you. And Grandma in the corner, knitting, of course. And Batman. This is true for EVERYONE!
What is the point in telling you this? Well... at the moment, I don't know. But this is where my fingers started walking over the keyboard, and I imagine the words they are creating will come together at some point to make a fantastic masterpiece. So, let's keep going, shall we?
There is an interesting conversation I had with a friend the other day about "alternative" being called "alternative". We were talking about Holistic Health, and how so many of these practices are being labeled "alternative", as if they are totally crazy and weird and out of the norm. When really, if you reeeeeeaaaally take a good hard think about it, these "alternatives" have been around for much, much longer than the Western world way of thinking. And for some reason, they seem to be seen as taboo, crazy hippie talk, woo-woo medicine, and perhaps even... *gasp*, "don't say it!", WITCHCRAFT!
So, that got me thinking. As a parent of a Highly Awesome Child, if you are looking for solutions or tools to support your child on this wild and wonderful, (and admittedly challenging), adventure if can become entirely overwhelming trying to find the right ones for you.
You can walk the path towards the Western medical system and they might tell you that medication and diagnoses are the way. This might be something you feel comfortable with and find solace in. If so, and these tools support your child, then RAD! Some of you might walk the "alternative" route and work with energy workers, nutritionists, and coaches of Magic Moms of Highly Awesome Children... *ahem*. (A shameless plug, reminding you that I am here to support you never hurt anyone, right? :) ). And some of you will find comfort in the center line, with teachers on both sides, Western and Woo-woo.
Whatever way you go, and wherever you find support that helps your child THRIVE is the right way for your family.
"So where the heck do we start?!", you may be asking. And this is where it gets really fun, AND can feel really intimidating. So this is my strong suggestion for you...
Start with ONE tool. Find one person, one method of therapy, one idea, one practice, one something that you trust, feel comfortable with, feels easy (as much as it can) and feels good to you.
When we start trying to do too many things at once, we become overwhelmed. Especially as Magic Moms (or Rad Dads) of these Highly Awesome Children. You may have lived in your child's experience before and I believe that I speak some truth when I say that you know what it would feel like for your child to be faced with so many different people, and new exercises to try, all at once.
A business coach recently offered some new tools to me in the form of online support, and she recommended the same thing. Choose ONE!
This doesn't mean that you have to stick with only one. Or that you are going to have the same one for the rest of your lives. OR, that the one you choose will even work for you. What it does mean is that you are starting somewhere, jumping in and learning what works and what doesn't work. Which then leads you to understanding you and your child's needs on a deeper level that before, and with more confidence to go out there in the world and find what you are looking for.
So I have a few questions for you now...
YOU are worth this. Yep, and you. And Grandma in the corner. Even Batman... and Robin. We are all worth this. And it is just a matter of going out there, grabbing life by the cahones, and starting with ONE thing.
Please share below and let us know (yep, I rhymed), what ONE thing you are choosing to start with in any aspect of your life.
And remember, as always, have fun!
Love, Light and Unicorns,
Coach for Magic Moms (and Rad Dads) of Highly Awesome Children
It seems to be pretty common these days that I see moms running from one thing to the next, making sure everyone is fully taken care of, (and then some), and going above and beyond, saving the world, and in the process completely wiping themselves out and feeling exhausted.
Question: WHY do moms do this?!
Answer: Because we are misunderstanding what a Super Hero really is.
See, Comic Book Super Hero's are really great. They have this life that they live, and they love it. They run around from one thing to the next, saving the world in their underwear, and looking like buff-muscle-machines while they do it. Both the men AND the women.
So what I want to know is why do moms for the most part just run around from one thing to the next? Trust me, I know many moms who look like buff-muscle-machines while they do it. And let's face it, you are all buff-muscle-machines with your giant hearts; the greatest muscle of them all. But if you are going to try and save the world, why aren't you doing it in your tights? And where is your cape? And why don't you have your very own logo on your chest that blazes in the sky when you are needed?
And the part that I am really wanting to know is... why aren't you embracing this life and taking care of yourself in the process?
In all of the movies I have seen of Super Hero's they are really loving their life and they are well taken care of. Batman for example, yes he is rich, but he dresses himself up, spends time with people drinking champagne and eating caviar.
Do you take the time to pamper yourself, visit with friends and eat and drink the things you love?
Here is what I know about Modern Day Super Hero's... they come in the form of moms. And these are the women who have the most buff heart muscle in the world. They run around all over the place, from soccer practice, to dance classes, to music lessons. They feed all the land (in their household), by cooking nourishing meals and making sure everyone eats enough. They give in their relationships with their partner in love (sidekick?). AND they practice self-care....
Ricki-ricki-eeearrcccch- WHAAAAAAT?! - Hold the phone Alice!!
That's right. I said it. Self-care. You need it. You deserve it. You will LOVE it once you implement it into your life. And you will have so much more to offer your children, your partner, and YOURSELF once you find that balance.
Where do you start in finding that balance you ask?
Well, I could give you a chat about how it starts from within, and so on and so forth, (because I'm really great at that), but that was yesterdays post. So here is one great tip to creating space in your life to make room for self-care...
Three letters... M ... I ... A.
Now, just hold on a minute! I am not talking packing your suitcase and running away to the first deserted Island you can find and leaving the kids and your sidekick.. ahem, husband/partner behind and finally escaping to pee alone for the first time in years. If your mind went there, know you are human. We all go there at some point or another.
What I mean are your Most Important Actions. There are things that need to happen, yes. Recreational activities, school/home school, meals, etc. What I want to know are what, outside of the things that you have to do, are the 1-2 Most Important Actions that you need to get done each day. Don't overwhelm yourself. Don't try and get too many things done at once. And... now, this one is very important...one of those things should be a piece of self-care for YOU.
For example... My 2 MIA's for today are:
So, Super Hero's, let's hear it! Comment below to share what your two MIA's are for the day, or even the week! And what your piece of self-care is.
Love, Light and Unicorns,
There is a place called Magic that I hope you experience. It is something that we all deserve to experience in our lifetime, and it will be unique to us in a way that no one can take away from us. We strive for this by thinking, and wishing, and hoping, and dreaming, and creating, and imagining, but there is a sweet spot between considering this Magic, and actually making it happen.
"Where on Earth do I find this place?!", is something I used to shout out with every fiber of my being.
"Right here", whispered my heart and soul.
Because, you see, this sweet spot is not something that you have to look for anywhere but within. This is where you keep your Magic. And as a daily reminder to believe in yourself, it is important that we tap into that place. The space inside of you that dances when you reach a goal. The place in you where everything makes sense when you are aligned with your Purpose and Passion. And the piece of you that so often gets forgotten trying to fit in to this great wide world, as the person you might feel you are "supposed to be".
Well, I can tell you from experience that the only person you are here to be is YOU. And YOU, my dear, are here to create Magic!
So how do you find and remain connected to this Magic within? Each one of us will have an individual path to get there, and practices that support us in keeping the flame lit.
I'll share my path with you as an idea of what this could look like for you. And I encourage you to then sit with your needs for a moment, and connect with what is necessary daily to help you succeed.
As I travel a lot, I have found that it is incredibly important for me to begin the day grounded. No, I am not in trouble. I am not travelling with my mama, (hehe - grounded - get it? - ok, moving on...). When I have energy bringing me back to Earth, I am no longer risking floating away and getting distracted by all the incredible ideas that come through me all day, every day.
In fact, more ideas flow as I connect to the Earth and I am able to keep my focus to actually complete tasks. Rather than float away like a windsock without a pole like I used to.
To me, these are the most important tasks to help me remain connected to myself, my truth, my passion and purpose, and my belief in myself and this journey. So, what are you waiting for?
Don't wait one more day, second guessing yourself, doubting your abilities, or feeling like you are not good enough. YOU are Magic.
I would LOVE to hear how you all connect with that piece of you, so share in the comments below. There are a million and one ways to embrace your Magic. Which path will you take?
For those of you who don't know, I'm a bit of a rebel. I don't like to be like others. I never have. When I was a kid, I would specifically not do things that other people thought to be popular, because that's how badly I didn't want to be like anyone else. I'm unique, I'm me, and I go out of my way to do things differently.
Because I am a highly sensitive and highly intuitive woman, who is here for a BIG mission, and an incredible purpose. I can't accomplish big things following the crowd and doing what I'm told. I need to do things differently and make an impact on the world by doing so.
Not a lot of people are aware of this, but that non-conformity is a trait that a lot, if not all, of highly sensitive/highly intuitive children possess. And, in my opinion, that is because they are not here to fit in; which we see in a variety of ways, and it's because they are here to change the world.
These children are not here to be like anyone else. They are not here to stay inside the box. Yet, there are a lot of boxes that the western world is creating for them. Now, these boxes are not something to be ashamed of. In some circumstances, these labels are really supporting and serving the children and families who are utilizing them. On the other end, my belief is that these children are SO much bigger than the boxes we are putting them in.
There is a positive aspect to these labels, and that is that it means the people who are creating them and using them are doing their best to understand these children. They are trying to understand so they can offer support. And that gives me hope that as those options become less desirable, there will be more room and more openness to alternatives like what we are talking about today.
It is already happening. More and more parents are noticing that there is something missing in the western alternatives, and they are seeking out support through new avenues. The first thing that I get asked when I share how I offer my gifts through my work is, "How do I know my child is highly sensitive/highly intuitive?"
So here is the rebels list to understanding high sensitivity. Your child may experience one of these things, and they may experience all of them. There is no certain number of check marks that qualifies them as highly sensitive/highly intuitive. Also, while reading this list, take a moment to gauge within yourself what your intuition is telling you. What did you experience as a child? What have you shut down? And what is calling to be explored deeper within yourself? Some of the things these children experience are...
* Deeply empathic; feels emotions, thoughts, and pain belonging to other people in their body, mind and spirit.
* Intense physical sensitivities; allergies, food sensitivities, chemical intolerance to things like laundry detergent and certain soaps, etc.
* Hears things more loudly than others, sometimes to an uncomfortable degree.
* Heightened senses in general.
* Speaks to angels, faeries, and spirits of those who have passed on.
* Asks questions about Spirit, God, Source, The Universe, etc, and expresses a deep connection to something bigger than us.
* Has trouble sleeping, and prefers not to sleep alone. Sometimes afraid of the dark.
* Has a hard time shutting their mind off at bedtime; with all the un-heard thoughts of the day surfacing and needing to be dealt with.
* Speaks wisdom beyond their years.
* Prone to emotional outbursts; often expressing that they don't feel they have control over them, and it doesn't feel like the emotions belong to them.
* Struggle at school, often being the target of bullies.
* Forward in some aspects, and seemingly behind in others. Example: Early walker, later talker, etc.
* May have been labelled with one or more of the following titles: ADD, ADHD, SPD, Autism, Indigo, Rainbow, Crystal Child, Highly Sensitive, Empath, Highly Spiritual, and so on.
* Sometimes feel like they do not belong here on Earth, and wish they could "go back to where they came from".
* Speak of past lives.
* Are determined to get what they want.
* Rebel against societal norms in a variety of ways.
* Question and challenge the way we do things on this planet.
* Great problem solvers.
* Mind readers; often know what you are thinking and finish your sentences for you.
* Experience heightened fear and anxiety, with some fears becoming debilitating.
* Display a deep connection with energy, and express healing abilities.
* Can seem shut down, cold and uncaring if not practicing healthy boundaries.
* Wildly creative with an amazing imagination.
* Overwhelmed by large groups and need alone time to center themselves afterwards.
* Loves deeper than anyone you know.
As a former highly sensitive/highly intuitive child myself, and a present moment Bonus-Mama to three highly sensitive children I know the way this wild and wonderful adventure can flip you upside down and leave you holding on for dear life; all the while as you express gratitude for the lessons. I am here to tell you...
You are not alone!
If there has ever been a doubt in your mind that you are "good enough" for this parenting journey, I want to remind you that your child chose you. They chose you to be their mama because they knew that you had everything they needed in a mother. They knew you had experienced similar things to what they do now, and are here now so you two can heal the world together, starting from within yourselves.
These are the New Children, and they are here to change the world.
It is an important time to mother a New Child, and there are avenues of support for YOU that wasn't available to your mother when you were a child. It is time, and you are the perfect person to do this work.
If this feels overwhelming, yet exciting, and you want to learn more, please click the link and schedule a complimentary Embrace Your Inner New Child Session, HERE.
It will be an honor to connect with you, and support you as you raise your New Child in a way that enables them to embrace their gifts, step fully into their purpose and create change in this ever needing world.
Fearless Leader for the Highly Awesome
It never ceases to amaze me how many different meanings one single word in the English language can actually have.
I used to think about this as a kid and wonder…”Do they, (meaning the language creators – whoever they were), really just like to confuse people?” Like, read and read; close and close; tear and tear. Silly homonyms…
How were we supposed to just know?!
As I grew up, I learned that so much of our understanding of language is based on perception. What is the story teller or writer trying to say? What is their point? What feeling are they aiming to invoke on the reader? What is their EXPERIENCE?
Recently, I have been in contact with a lot of people who don’t feel, “good enough”. Whether they are entrepreneurs not succeeding in their business as they would like to, parents who don’t feel they are doing a good enough job nurturing their children, or men and women who don’t feel they are an adequate partner, there are a lot of us showing up lately and wanting one thing; to succeed at something. And something that matters.
So, I ask you this…
Who’s to say you aren’t already succeeding? What is it that you are waiting for, or waiting to happen, that you aren’t already doing yourself? Where does it say that success means perfection at all levels? When do we give up on being good enough and recognize that we are SO MUCH MORE than that? Why do we remain content in the illusion that we have to be better BEFORE we can get the recognition for who we are in this moment?
We have been misled. By countless generations who gave their power away, sought approval outside of them and let themselves be shamed by the people projecting their insecurities on those they determined to be “weaker”. Those were just words, and we made assumptions based on our perception of their meaning.
It is time for a change. We are here for a PURPOSE. As a collective WE and as an individual we, there is a specific reason that each of us is here, at this time, in this life and during this shift in awareness as we grow and expand amongst one another. It’s time we BELIEVE that truth.
While I explored the energies of the people coming to me with, “not good enough” syndrome, (don’t worry, you’re not alone! I suffer from this sometimes as well), some words of wisdom showed up on my desk.
Written ten years ago by a wise, divinely inspired 17 year old on a mission, this message is clear…
What are you waiting for?
Many years have gone by since I wrote this and it still speaks to me as loudly as ever before; possibly even louder!
We are in a great time of change, and I invite you to shift your awareness to open up your perception a little bit wider. See the pain and acknowledge the anguish in the person who slings hurtful words your way, but don't take them on. Trust that each seeming rejection is really there to propel you forward into the purpose you are meant to fulfill. Know that these words show up as a way to remind you who you truly are and that YOU have CHOICE over what you allow into your existence and what doesn't belong.
BE INSPIRED, and inspire others.
As a highly sensitive child, inspirations like this came often, but without the support necessary to embrace my gifts, I shut down. My desire is to support mothers in a way that enables them to regain their gifts, accepting their True Self and passing these tools on to their highly sensitive children in a way that gives EVERYONE the opportunity to THRIVE.
We are ALL SO MUCH MORE than “good enough”. And I am on a mission to create a world where “good enough” no longer exists in the human language.
Who’s with me?
Have you ever simply wanted to crawl under a blanket and stay there? Maybe make a nice fort out of your bedding, the floor is your mattress, and the couches surround you, creating a safe space where nobody can get to you. Perhaps a mini-fridge so you have everything you need, and only venture to the bathroom with a broom handle and your tin-foil hat to protect you?
I think I went to far with that last bit... What I am saying is, have you ever wished you could just disappear for a bit, not have to deal with anyone and be safe under that blanket where no one else's energy, thoughts, projections or "stuff" could get to you?
My spidey senses tell me I'm not alone on this one. And that's OK! We are sensitive creatures, some of us more than others and often times we empaths are the first to pick up on the energies in our surroundings and take 'em all home with us to make soup! For example, we walk down the street, there's a couple fighting, she is quite sad, he is angry. We feel triggered by this, and put one of those emotions in our little fanny pack, shall we say, anger. We go into the grocery store, and because we are such open beings, we are constantly being told people's life stories. An older woman comes to tell us how lonely she is after her cat passed away, and how she is afraid it is her fault for a variety of reasons. She feels guilty, and we pack that away for her so she doesn't have to carry the burden. She leaves feeling better after talking to us and we walk away with guilt.
This goes on for the rest of the day, likely without us even noticing we are doing it! Then, once we get home, we wonder why we are SO exhausted and emotionally drained. We empty our fanny pack of feelings and sit in this emotional soup of debris we picked up throughout the day, when only about 10% of it really belongs to us.
Boundaries, my dear Watson. Boundaries!!
We talk about boundaries a lot with our kids, physical boundaries for the most part and verbal/emotional boundaries coming in as a close second, but where are the ENERGETIC boundaries? If we were to sit down and talk to our children about how not to take on someone else's energy, how to protect ourselves... while still remaining open to the world... I imagine this world would be quite a bit more open to begin with. Rather, we shut ourselves down because it seems easier, but I can tell you from experience, this world is WAKING UP, and quickly. It will come for us, the awareness, and it comes for our highest good, so the less shut down our present and future generations consciously choose to live, the less healing we will have to experience to truly wake up.
Why is it hard to do it, and why I am the one here telling you this? Because we were never taught. No one being better than anyone else, as we move forward in this world, generation after generation comes with more answers to the previous generations questions. THIS is awakening!
So, suffice it to say that our parents likely were't taught this by their parents, or their grandparents, nor were they taught it by their great grandparents, simply because it wasn't time.
As I child, I was not taught what I see as a basic need in this world as a highly sensitive being. As I grew up, I also shut down. It wasn't until I went to a Holistic Health school that I really began to see the bigger picture, recognize my gifts as GIFTS rather than a curse, and started to open myself to this world, and the people around me.
THIS is what I am here for. That journey was what I needed to experience, struggle through and overcome so that I could stand confident in offering my gifts to others seeking the same. So that I could offer this to parents who didn't have the support they needed and desperately want to offer that support to their children, but just don't know how.
We have built walls throughout our culture by being shut down to the energies around us, and understandably so, but it is time for CHANGE! Rather than build walls to shut others out, I invite you to invest in a zipper. A zipper she says?! YES, a ZIPPER!
Take a stand, literally. Nice and tall, deep belly breath and slowly bend forward. This zipper begins at your feet; as you take it in your fingers, consciously decide what this zipper keeps out and protects your energy from as you zip it all the way up and over your head. At the back of your head, switch hands and, as you zip down the back of you, be aware of all that you are releasing from this safe bubble of clean and positive energy. The zipper ends right where it began, and you are ready for your day.
If we were to teach this to our children each day, how to keep out energies that don't belong to us, imagine how intact their sense of self would be at the end of the day.
Of course, there are things that come into play throughout the day, and boundaries that may be more permeable for one friend than another, but that's why this is simply the beginning!
Stay tuned next week for the difference between permeable and impermeable when it comes to energetic boundaries, AND, a wonderful way to clear away the yuck after a long and open day out there in this great wide world.
As always, thank you for investing this time in yourselves and for being open to the words on this page. These are all based on my work as a Coach for Parents of Highly Intuitive Children.
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