I recently had a conversation with my 2 year old self. She was scared, and I came to her rescue to help her understand why people were yelling, and what she could do to protect herself.
As a highly sensitive child, it is so easy to take on what you are surrounded by. And if you are in an environment full of fear, anger, chaos and anxiety, these are the emotions you are going to embody and express. Which is exactly why I was so misunderstood growing up, all the way into my early 20's.
As I came to her side, I fully intended to protect her. To hold her and let her know that everything was OK and that I would make sure nobody hurt her. She, being the strong, intuitive and wise little firecracker that she was, asked me to teach her how to do that for herself.
Here I had come with my cape blowing in the wind, ready to save the day, and there she was, asking me to help her tie her own cape and teach her what direction to stand in so it blew the right way. I was honored to do so.
So we had a conversation. We talked about how awesome it was that she had these super powers of her own and what she could do to embrace them today, and every day thereafter.
Here is how it went...
Deep down, you have a knowing inside of you that is reminding you where you came from, and what you are here to share with the world. Listen to your intuition as it will guide you throughout your life. The more you tap into that guidance, the deeper it will accompany you on your journey. Sounds simple right? It can be, and the first step is to make the choice to listen. Listen from your heart and really hear what this guidance is trying to tell you. You have the ability inside of yourself to feel what is intuition, and what is ego. All it takes is practice.
Kid version: You know that little voice inside of you that tells you stuff? Like what teddy bear needs the most cuddles, why the dog is barking, when you are safe and when you are not, and why to wear gumboots even though mom says it isn't going to rain? ALWAYS listen to that part of you. It is going to be with you for your whole life, and it loves to feel heard. The more you listen, the more it is going to talk to you. That is your very best friend in the whole wide world.
Remember that you are infinite love. You did not come into this experience to feel disconnected, alone, lost, frightened or separate from the world. You are here to remember your connection, to feel that connection and to embrace it. What fills you up? Do something each day to support yourself in feeling that connection. Sing, dance, play, paint, run, jump, skip, hug and kiss the ones you love, and know that you deserve happiness just as much as anyone else.
Kid version: Remember that feeling you had when you first came into this world? The feeling that you still get when you see someone you love, when your puppy kisses your face, when the raindrops fall on your cheeks and you puddle stomp in your gumboots? That is something you want to always remember. There will be things in life that try and take that feeling away, but you are so strong, and you have the power to stay connected to this feeling. Pay attention to what makes you feel this way and do that even more! Sing, dance, play, paint, run, jump, skip, hug and kiss the ones you love and be happy.
Know what is yours
Hurt people hurt people. We have all come across someone in our lives who was hurting, and seemed to feel it was easier to bring another human down with them than reach their hand out to be pulled up. Don't take on the things others try to place on you because they don't know how to heal them. The only person you have responsibility for is yourself, and that is a magnificent realization once we come to it. This doesn't mean you don't care about others. Quite the opposite actually. By giving people their "stuff" back and not carrying it on yourself anymore, you give them the incredible opportunity to take responsibility and actually begin to heal the things they have been projecting for so long. Embrace your power, and allow others to do the same. This is a gift for everyone.
Kid version: Sometimes, people might say things to you that don't feel very good. You don't have to believe the mean things others say, because they are hurting inside of themselves. A lot of the time when people are hurting inside, they say hurtful things to try and get that feeling out of their body. You can just give them love and let them know you are sorry they are hurting. ALWAYS, always give that love to yourself first and know that you are perfect just for being you.
Practice protection, without shutting down
There is a feeling of overwhelm that can show up when we are living in this world wide open. It can be scary, absolutely. And you can protect yourself, of course. But don't shut down your gifts entirely because that isn't going to do yourself, or the world, any good at all, my dear. There is an energy of brilliance that comes along with being vulnerable. The world needs vulnerability now more than ever, and you can be one to gift that to us all. We have become so used to building up walls, or shutting people down, and closing each other out, all in the name of "Protection". However, that is not protection at all. That is Rejection, and when you reject the opportunity to put yourself and your amazing gifts out into the world, you are rejecting yourself. You deserve better than that. Learn tools to protect yourself from energies that are not helping you heal or thrive, but remain open and allow yourself to be vulnerable by sharing that vulnerability with the world.
Kid version: You know that energy that you feel every day? Some days it is stronger than others, and in some situations you feel it deeper in your body than before. That is OK. This energy is here to tell you what feels good, what feels bad and it is going to guide you through your life to help you make the best decisions you can. You also have a really cool and unique gift which is why you are here in the world. If you close this energy off because it is hard or scary you might not get to share that gift with the world. The world needs YOU. You are important, special, brilliant and incredible. Listen to that voice inside of you and learn new things to help you feel protected from the energy that doesn't feel good so you can really enjoy the energy that feels GREAT!
Have fun with it
Have you forgotten how to play? When was the last time you put on a cape, ran around the house with your arms outstretched and honored yourself for the inspiring super hero that you are? This is something that we can do everyday! Well, perhaps we don't put on a cape, or our underwear over our pants when we are headed out to work, but you can take this mentality and mindset with you. Take a moment, each morning, to show gratitude for the ways in this world that you are a super hero. Embrace the gifts in being Highly Awesome - Sensitive, Empathic and Intuitive, as these are GIFTS. Not a curse, though some may tell you that. Don't listen to them. They are speaking out of fear, and have begun to shut themselves down. You are here to share yourself with the world in a powerful way, and your laughter will echo throughout the hearts of those you are meant to speak to.
Kid version: What is your superpower? What makes you special, makes you stand out, and makes you AWESOME? Do that thing every single day. Some people might not understand your superpower. They might want to tell you that there is something different, weird, or wrong about you. They are wrong. You are a super hero. You are here to change the world. Don't let anyone stand in the way of you being your amazing self. And always remember to have fun doing it. Laugh from the bottom of your belly and let all the sun beams shine out of your smiling face. Oh yeah, and ask Mom or Dad to make you a cape with your very own super hero symbol on it. Every super hero needs a cape!
When we finished the conversation, we held each other for a moment in a deeply healing hug, and as I pulled back from the embrace I saw her. Standing before me, cape blowing in the wind, Little Erin had embraced her gifts, her superpowers, and her trust in herself. All of these things she had been told not to do, or led to believe that she was wrong about, were now a part of her BIG self in this little body. She was here to change the world, which was something she had always felt within, but now she KNEW it.
It was that day that everything changed in her life.
What are you willing to allow that knowing to do for your life?
Here's to changing the world, one windblown cape at a time,
Fearless Leader for the Highly Awesome